By Michael Freeman, M.A.
- Intro -
Are you a man considering breaking up your relationship, but you don't want to hurt her? There are good reasons for staying with your partner, but fear of how she'll respond to the break-up should not be one of them. Many guys stay because of this fear, even if they have valid reasons for wanting to break-up:
* Maybe you don't communicate well as a couple...
* Maybe she's too clingy...
* Maybe you need more space and time to yourself...
* Or maybe you just want to be single and pursue career and personal goals without the complications of a relationship...
No matter what your reason for leaving, if you are a compassionate person, you will probably feel bad about having to hurt her. However, no matter how much you care for your partner, you can't stay with them out of fear of the break-up. Contrary to what you may think, staying when your heart isn't in it doesn't benefit her: Nobody truly desires a partner that stays with them out of pity.
- Delaying the break-up -
Are you delaying the break-up because you don't want to hurt your partner? Does this sound familiar:
"I don't want to cause her pain"
"I can't stand to make her cry"
"She can't live without me"
"She'll freak out if break it off"
These are not valid reasons for avoiding a break-up. Heartbreak is part of life. Would you want to live a life in which you never experienced the pain of an aching heart? A life of minimal heartbreak would be nice, but some heartbreak is unavoidable. There is only one way to avoid heartbreak: Stay single. All of us sign-up for potential heartbreak when we enter into a relationship.
Just remember: You are not cruel for wanting to break-up a relationship that you no longer desire. In fact, breaking up is the only thing you can do once you've decided that you can't keep your heart in the relationship anymore.
- A break-up without pain isn't possible -
If you are delaying the break-up because you don't want to hurt her, it's obvious that you care very much for your partner, and that's good. However, you're also probably worried about yourself -- how will you be able to handle her reaction. Simply put, you're scared. There is a valid reason for being scared: There is no way to break-up without pain and discomfort.
You can remove that fear by learning how to make the break-up as painless as possible for you both. There are certain guidelines you can follow, one of which is to take action ASAP: The longer you wait, the more you both have invested in the relationship.
If you feel stuck, and could use a guide on how to break-up in a way that causes the least amount of pain possible, see my site on leaving unhealthy relationships and find my manual on how to leave unsatisfying relationships.
Michael Freeman, M.A., helps men get UNSTUCK from unhealthy relationships. Go here to learn more: http://www.how-to-finally-leave-her.com
Michael Freeman, M.A., helps men get UNSTUCK from unhealthy relationships. Go here to learn more: http://www.how-to-finally-leave-her.com
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