By Sharon Melnick
Are you getting in your own way in your career? Take this short quiz and find out. Go to http://sharonmelnick.com/quiz2.htm to take a longer version of the quiz and and get a customized report in which a psychologist reveals secrets of her research at Harvard to help you have both the career success you want and the inner feeling you are 'enough' to deserve it!
1. You go out of your way to say 'yes' to other people and accommodate their needs even when it interferes with you getting your own work/life done. You spend time on 'small wins'(in order to feel good when people say 'thanks, you're a great person') instead of putting effort into your 'big picture' that will allow you to finally feel secure and satisfied.
2. Too often you hide, or don't 'put yourself out there' in situations because you are worried about the unfavorable reaction you might get from others.
3. You feel like you are putting out a lot of effort out but you are not getting the rewards that you'd like to get from all your efforts
4. You waste more time than you'd like
5. You would like to act in ways that are more authentic to you, rather than playing a role for important others
6. More often than you'd like you have the belief that you are "not enough", that you "are wrong", that you "can't" do or get what you want, or that you "should" be acting differently
7. You are successful on the outside but don't feel confident on the inside (any)
8. You sell yourself short
9. You know you are not living up to your potential (any)
10. You lose time and focus in your life when you are being reactive to situations.
11. You spend time on minutiae instead of big picture priorities
12. You stay in your comfort zone, don't volunteer for stretch assignments
13. You haven't made changes because you are waiting for the answer to come to you or for someone else to advise you on next steps
14. There is at least one person in your professional or personal life who really makes you feel disempowered (e.g., spouse, boss, colleague, parent, family member); you take their behavior personally and it makes you feel bad about yourself or helpless to change the situation.
15. You don't feel that you are in control of your life, you have a vague idea of how you would like your work-life balance to look, and how you would like to feel more connected with other people, but it feels elusive to you how to get there. (any)
16. You know that you are not in the right job situation (or relationship situation) and on some level you feel miserable about it - but you scare yourself into fearing you won't be able to get all the trade-offs you want, or you worry about making a mistake, so you don't decide at all. You stay burrowed in your comfort zone. (8,10)
17. You don't set limits with others in the way you know you should – and you end up paying for it.
18. You are constantly living under the pressure of trying to control things and other people; it makes you crazy if you can't control situations
If you answered yes to even one of these questions, you are most likely getting in the way of your own career. Go to http://sharonmelnick.com/quiz2.htm to take a longer version of the quiz and get a customized report that explains how to get out of your own way to have the success you feel you deserve.
Sharon Melnick, Ph.D. ‘helps talented and successful people get out of their own wa Take her free assessment(http://sharonmelnick.com/quiz2.htm and find out ways you don't even know you are getting in your own way.
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