By Kieran Davey
Hugh Jackman, Reese Witherspoon, George Clooney, Matthew McConaughey, Russell Crowe and Cameron Diaz. The list goes on. Now I am sure that you know at least a few of these names, if not all of them. Maybe you have caught them recently on the big screen. What though, can you learn from them - in terms of Dating? Quite a lot actually, so listen up.
Let's move on to the bigger picture. Pick your favorite actor. It doesn't have to be from the list above. One, two, three or more. It does not matter. Picked one? So what is it you like about them in particular? What makes them the stand out performer in your eyes?
OK, so hopefully you've picked one or two now. I'm sure you didn't have too much trouble. Slow down and wait a moment though. It's time to take a BIG STEP BACK. Why did you choose this actor or actress? Is it their ability to dazzle on the big screen alone?
I'll bet the majority of you made your choices based on their acting skills alone? Of course, this makes sense. They are actors, after all. You pay money to go watch them and you have certain 'expectations' when doing so. Now, let's forget, for a moment, they are actors. Totally forget their 'status' and the 'image' all together. Imagine they were the worst actor in the world and that you only know them as a 'person.' Who now is your top pick? It can be more than one again. It's difficult I know.
Maybe your choices have changed? Maybe they haven't? It does not matter. It's time to talk about their people powers and what you can learn from them in terms of 'attitude' and being 'approachable.' More specifically – The Good Dating Attitude.
Let's talk autographs then. Maybe the actor you choose is the best in the world? Maybe they are the worst? Maybe you have no idea?
Johnny Depp is one such Actor that certainly knows where his bread was buttered. Despite him being conflicted about the Hollywood System and fame, he shows nothing but love for his fans. Catch him in a crowded airport, and he'll sign an autograph for you while carrying his luggage. No doubt his fans love him for this. George Clooney is another who will happily joke around and sign autographs for his legions of fans.
What about the other end of scale? Then, of course, there is Cameron Diaz. Cameron think she's far too smart for her silly fans. Generally, if you ask her for an autograph, she'll refuse. Furthermore, she'll probably lecture you about how dumb autographs really are.
So what does this have to do with dating? It is a great example of how to be 'approachable' for a start. Remember now, there will always only be two ways to get a 'date.' One is to 'approach' and the other is to be 'approachable.' So if you don't want approach – why not at least make yourself approachable? Gives you a much better chance doesn't it? Body language should never be underestimated on this front, either. Smile and make eye contact. Any is better than none at all. Your confidence will grow as a result, giving you a fantastic chance of the 'date' going well.
Having a good 'dating attitude' is the main point, though, to take away from our autograph example. The point being – give everybody a chance from the start. Remember, like you, they are in the same boat. Even more so, if it's a first date.
Judging your date, before you've even spoken, will not help. Sure, of course it's a judgemental world we live in. We all know that. However, you will certainly give yourself the best possible chance if you START off with this 'good attitude.' Of course, if you don't start with this attitude then forget it. The date is destined to be a disaster.
What if the date is still a disaster? Even after this? Nothing more you can do. You've gone in with the right attitude and that's all you can control. More importantly, don't just make this a 'one date wonder' showing of 'good attitude.' If the date didn't go well, you need to clear it from your mind. Try not to take these negative thoughts into the next date. It will only ruin your chances. You gave yourself the best possible chance and that is all that you can control.
So, yes....you can learn 'Good Dating Attitude' from Mr Johnny Depp.
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