By Hal Stevens
As youths, we frequently fight with our brothers and sisters. It's just the normal order of things. As adults, we still battle with our siblings. However, for many of us, our relationships with our brothers and sisters grow deeper as we get older.
Our siblings are, in many ways, the only other people who experienced the same things we did as children. We have the same family, and often, similar characteristics (that's probably why we fight).
The death of a sibling is a confusing time. For some, it's like losing a piece of themselves. For others, it's a sign of their own mortality. Some people see the death of a sibling as breaking a connection to their past and, some view such a loss as a lost opportunity to be closer.
No matter what you're feeling, you've been called upon to eulogize your brother or sister. Your eulogy can take many forms. You can use it as a chance to share family stories—funny or serious. You can use it as an opportunity to share your feelings about your brother or sister with the world. And, you can take this chance to make everyone aware of how special your sibling was.
1. Traditional Brother Eulogy: Describe a humorous spat between you and your brother as children—a tussle over a favorite toy or jealousy over who got the bigger piece of cake, for example. Describe a time when, as children, your brother showed you some kindness or did something nice. Describe a time when you realized that your brother was a good person as an adult. This is an opportunity to discuss your brother's adult life as a husband, a father, a career person or military person. Name ways in which you and your brother were similar. Use examples.
2. Traditional Sister Eulogy: Share a story from your childhood. Describe a time when, as children, your sister showed you some kindness or did something nice. Share stories about your adult lives. These can be humorous or serious. List her accomplishments including family, charity work, career, interests, etc. List some of the positive influences your sister had on others.
3. Traditional Sibling Letter: Writing a letter to your sibling is often a popular choice. Write it like you would you was speaking directly to them. Mention things that stand out from when you were a kid. Mention the lessons that they taught you through your life.
If you are called on to write a eulogy for a sister or brother, it can be quite a challenge to do so. In the end though, it will be worth every heart wrenching word. Nothing will captivate the audience more or pay a higher tribute than the words that come from deep within your heart.
Hal Stevens owns the CemeterySpot family of websites that provide products, services and resource directories related to end of life topics. To find out more about these free services and resources, to learn more about his books, and to get a free gift, visit http://www.cemeteryspot.com. Hal is the author of several critically acclaimed eBooks specifically written to help people deal with end of life issues. His eBooks include topics such as: cremation, writing and delivering a eulogy, eco-friendly green funerals, funeral planning, organ donation, and buying and selling cemetery plots.
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