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By Francis Hosein
Many times you wait for an occasion to get together with family
hoping that this time it will be different and many times you may feel disappointed.
When family get together you can see and hear the arguments that have not been resolve.
Sometimes the disagreements are in the open and sometimes it is hidden among the response of the people.
Obligation
You may feel obligated to attend because of your parents and tradition.
You may feel that you must talk to your family members and do not feel that you have anything in common.
Each time your family members see each other it is like pulling teeth.
You may find that as you step in the door of your parent's home you take on the same role that you had with your family members before you left.
You may notice that your family members insist to hold you to that role although you attempt to get out of that role.
Your partner may join in and support the role your other members assigned you or they may stay out of it because they have heard you complain about it often.
Complaining
You may use their partner in life to help you to continue to complain, blame, or justify your point of view of why you are acting that way.
For some, why or what was the problem and how did it get started may not be remembered, you just remember you are not getting along and may remind yourself not to forget just before you enter your parents home.
Rebuilding Relationships
It is difficult to decide to start rebuilding a relationship during a festive occasion.
During the year is a good time to rebuild a relationship with your family because it will help you during the festive moment come closer to celebrate.
Taking the first step toward healing ask lots of courage and compassion, it takes time and patience.
Choosing to break the cycle is not only for you and your first family members it is also for your children's future.
Holding on to the big picture of what you want to accomplish and how it is going to help you and your children can give you the driving force to break the old pattern.
Realizing your role
It takes two persons to have an argument, stay mad with each other, and blame each other.
It takes one person to have the courage to make peace, to ask forgiveness, it does not matter who is right or wrong, it matters how you want to live your life.
Emotional pain leads to physical pain sometimes in the form of dis-ease, drugs and sometimes as difficulties with money.
Become a hero to yourself and heal the wound that you have been carrying around for many years.
What do you want to be remembered for, your ability to be right or your ability to make peace?
Conclusion: You can continue to blame your family member for the rest of your life for what and how you act with each other or you can choose to heal and allow yourself to be the person you always wanted to be by your new behaviour.
The author grants full reprint rights to this article. You may reprint and electronically distribute this article so long as its contents remain unchanged, and the author's byline remains in place. Francis is the owner of http://trans-formers.com if you want more information on free relationship advice in your life you can find at:http://www.trans-formers.com/free-relationship-advice.html
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