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| Relationship: Father Dating Effect on Young Daughter | November 5, 2009, 5:15 pm | visits: 0 | wordcount: 555
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By Francis Hosein
When the young child comes to realize that her father is no longer coming home and that he has a new home, it is sometimes difficult for the child and she may think it is her fault.
The little girl may feel responsible for her father and mother breaking up and feel it is her duty to bring her parents back together.
Problems at school
This sometimes acts out in school with the young daughter school grades going down or she may have difficulty with other school mates.
She may spend more time alone in her room and less desire to do things outside with others.
Identifying with pain
Children may take on the pain of their parent's separation on themselves as a way of empathizing with one or both parents.
Children feels more than think logically because their brain is not fully develop for them to make a difference that the problem is between their parents and not about them.
Children may take on the pain because that is what they have learn to do even when they were in the wound of their mother and they learn to have empathy with their parental figure for that was one of the ways they communicated with the world and they continue to do so when they are born.
Losing her place
As the father starts dating it has an effect on the child feeling left out of his life.
The young daughter may feel that she is no longer important for her father, and that she has lost her place in his life.
The little girl may feel that she will see less of her father and when she does she will be competing for his attention with his date.
The child may feel that she has less support for her father because he is not around and when he is around he may have someone else to help him share his responsibility with his child and she may feel again she has no place.
Healing the hurts
For the young daughter, she need to feel that she will always have a place in her fathers life, that she will be consulted when time to see him and not be taken for granted.
The little girl need to know that when her father says he will come to see her that he does for that will have an impact on how she see men later on in her adult life.
When the father starts dating it is better he does not bring his date on a visit to his daughter.
Later on when he is ready to have a serious relationship it would be the time for him to allow his date with his daughter because it is difficult for his daughter to deal with more emotional difficulty in her life.
The visits with his dates needs to be short and in a place that the little girl does not feel threaten.
The father needs to understand that how he acts with another woman in his life may have an impact on his daughter for she may feel that she has to share and compete for his attention.
His daughter needs a stable environment while they both are working to rebuild their relationship together for this builds security and trust.
Conclusion: With each relationship brings with it an opportunity to heal and create a new way of communication between father and daughter that can last a lifetime.
The author grants full reprint rights to this article. You may reprint and electronically distribute this article so long as its contents remain unchanged, and the author's byline remains in place. Francis is the owner of http://trans-formers.com if you want more information on relationships in your life you can Visit http://www.trans-formers.com/free-relationship-advice.html
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